4. DO keep in mind that fights are about feelings, perhaps not facts.
“You always do [awful thing] each time we [activity] and I’m tired of it!”
“You worry about [person, spot, or thing] more than you worry about me personally!”
“You don’t give a shit about [person, spot, or thing]!”
They are maybe not facts. They are your emotions, your perceptions. Your perception as a person is trained from an incredible number of several years of development to identify causation and pattern. The issue using this — with development — is the fact that we now have a habit that is bad of causation where there is certainly none and discerning “patterns” in one or two supporting circumstances. We’re good at exaggerating or truths that are ignoring fit our perception. This really is why many people battle.
“I feel [jealous, hurt, overlooked, ignored, ignored, silly, etc.] whenever you do [thing] once we [activity]. I have to speak about that.”
“I feel than me sometimes like you care more about [person, place, or thing. Continue reading Arguments aren’t about facts. They’re about emotions — your feelings — so make statements about your self.